Certainly not by burying my head in the sand! 😄
What is an emotion?
An emotion is a temporary affective reaction, which is felt in my body.
Paco is unjustly punished by the teacher. He feels frustration. His head heats up, he becomes all red. He has ideas of revenge, like beating the teacher. After a while, the anger passes and he calms down.
Emotions are neither negative nor positive. They are pleasant (like joy) or unpleasant (like fear).
An emotion can take control of:
- My body.
- My thoughts.
- My behavior.
Lisa hears a knock on the window. It’s dark and she’s alone. She feels a lump in her throat. Her heart beats wildly. She remains frozen, on the alert, she does not know what to do. She imagines the worst.
What to do in case of emotion?
An emotion is not to be fought or ignored.
If I feel an emotion, I can just take a deep breath, accept it and let it flow through me.
Brad feels despair. He checks that his breathing is not blocked. He says to himself, “I accept to feel this emotion.” 1 minute later, the emotion is gone.
Emotional acceptance is the best way to avoid creating a memory in me.
What is an emotional memory?
An emotion is a wave of energy that hits me. I can’t hold a wave.
On the other hand I can keep the memory of a particularly intense wave. I do not retain the emotion, but the memory of the emotion.
The powerful wave continued its way, but caused a contraction in me. I retain the photograph of the energetic contraction in my cells.
It is not the energy of the emotion that is blocked in me, but my own resistance.
In other words, I accumulate memories of significant events as energetic blocks in my body.
The emotions of everyday life awaken these emotional wounds from the past.
Maria has been feeling anxious for a few days, without knowing why. In fact, a story heard on the news awakened the anxiety of being abandoned by her parents when she was 2 years old.
In this example, the anxiety is a message to Maria: “You can go and look inside yourself, there is an anxiety memory to explore, so you can free yourself from it.”
How do you release an emotional memory?
I have many emotional memories within me.
They replay themselves over and over again in my life, until they are accepted.
Jenny breaks a glass. She feels guilt, but cannot put it into words. Her mom scolds her, but she would like to hear that it’s okay. In reality, she needs understanding. A memory of guilt gets blocked in her.
Now an adult, Jenny frequently feels guilt. In other words, she repeats guilt situations in her life because there is a memory inside her waiting to be accepted.
Once I integrate its message, the memory is released.
The process of emotional acceptance
I can release the blocked energy of the memory myself.
Depending on the case, I may need to :
- Send love to the emotion.
- Observe the blocked energy in my body.
- Shake my whole body.
- Express verbally what I am feeling.
- Shout out my rage into a pillow.
- Understand my needs.
- Become aware of something.
To learn more, here is the complete emotional acceptance process.
By releasing my memories, I am getting better and better.
Every day John accepts his emotions. Behind most of his emotions, he finds that there are memories. He applies the process every time. Step by step, he sees improvements in his life. He sleeps better and better, and gets angry with his wife less often than before.
When the memory wound is deep, outside help from a therapist may be necessary.
Conclusion
How to deal with emotions?
Emotion is a natural reaction. It is meant to be experienced.
Repressing or managing emotions does not work. It is better to accept them.
Often, behind the emotion there is a memory to accept, which brings me back to childhood.
Emotional acceptance allows for the release of memories that seek to be expresses.
