Every day brings its share of emotions: fear, anger, sadness…
What to do with these waves that overwhelm us?
What is an emotion?
An emotion is a temporary emotional reaction.
It is usually felt in the body, as well as in the thoughts.
Example: Paco is punished unfairly by the teacher. He feels angry. His head gets hot, he gets red in the face. He has ideas of revenge, like hitting the teacher. After a while, the anger passes and he calms down.
Emotions are neither negative nor positive. They are pleasant (like joy) or unpleasant (like fears).
It is interesting to note that an emotion can take control of the:
Example: Lisa hears a knock on the window. It is night and she is alone. She feels a lump in her throat. Her heart is pounding. She remains frozen, on the alert, she does not know what to do. She imagines the worst.
Emotions are often triggered by an external event. But sometimes the trigger is unconscious.
Example: Mary has been feeling anxious for a few days, without knowing why. In fact, a story she heard on the news triggered the anxiety about being abandoned by her parents when she was 2 years old.
In this example, the anxiousness is a message to Mary: “You can look inside yourself, there is something to understand, so you can free yourself from it.”
This brings us to the concept of blocked emotion.
Behind every unpleasant event, there are one or more blocked emotions.
What is a blocked emotion?
An emotion blocks itself under 3 conditions:
- It is not expressed.
- The response received from others is not appropriate.
- The needs are not expressed.
Example: Judy breaks a glass. She feels guilty, but cannot express it in words. Her mother scolds her, although she would like to hear that it is not important. She needs understanding. Guilt gets stuck in her.
A blocked emotion will replay itself over and over again in our lives, until it is released.
Example: David feels injustice because his manager did not give him a raise. In reality, at the age of 4 he felt a great injustice when his brother was praised instead of him. Since then, he continues to attract similar situations, to understand that there is an injustice blocked in him since his childhood.
Once the message is understood, then the emotion is released. It is not repeated.
How many blocked emotions do we have?
Thousands. Most of them go back to childhood. Others were inherited at birth: from our family lineage, from karma.
Releasing the main blocked emotions can have an extremely positive effect on a person’s life (especially when depressed).
By freeing oneself emotionally little by little, one gets better and better.
It is possible to do this yourself.
Example: I feel apprehensive at night. I identify a fear of the dark. By accepting and integrating it, it disappears in a few days.
When the emotion is too strong, external help from a psychotherapist is welcome.
What to do in case of emotion?
Emotions cannot be managed. They should be respected and experienced..
All emotions are felt in the body. The more we connect with our body sensations, the more we can identify the emotions that arise.
In case of an unpleasant emotion or feeling, one can use an Emotional Release Process.
Les émotions ne se gèrent pas. Elles se respectent et se vivent.
Toute émotion se ressent dans le corps. Plus on se connecte aux sensations corporelles, plus on parvient à identifier les émotions qui surviennent.
En cas d’émotion ou sentiment déplaisant, on peut utiliser un Processus de Libération Émotionnelle.
How to react to feelings?
Telling someone who is feeling an emotion “Oh stop making a fuss” or “You’re not going to cry again” is the best way to block it.
Here are some sentences that can bring comfort:
- You are allowed to feel these emotions.
- Don’t worry, everything will be fine.
- I am here for you, and I will always be here.
- I trust you, I listen to you, I accept you.
- I love you forever.
Children, who are the emotional champions, will appreciate hearing this kind of feedback.
The good news is that you don’t need an outsider to comfort you.
It is quite possible to imagine your own parents saying these phrases to you, while imagining yourself in their arms.
Next, the underlying needs should be identified: the need to be loved, be hugged, be understood, be listened to, feel safe…
How to deal with emotions?
Emotion is a natural reaction. It is meant to be experienced.
Often, behind the feeling there is a message to be understood, which most of the time brings us back to childhood.
Trying to manage or repress emotions is the best way to block them.
In case of emotion, here is an effective Emotional Release Process.
Discover also the Heart Program, to accelerate the emotional release.